I’ve been watching movie after movie with a hero dissecting a piece of information or a case or something important to mankind, and a woman is at his aide, being the one to loosen him up, to be the “support”, or be the extra in his life where he takes all these important decisions. Granted, there are movies like Arrival which are mind-blowing and urge you to rethink definitions. But, if you really think about it, women-centric movies occupy only a few drops in a bucket-full of male-centric films. One of my little idiosyncrasies has been to help male chauvinists learn the concept of “gender” in their own terms. And this post is for you, misogynists.
The euphemism for defeat and weakness has always been a strong reference to a lady’s body parts, and constantly saying that sure is “manly”. The whole point of understanding the concept of “feminism” is something not many men would want to undertake. Trust me, most of us are not feminazis, we’re simple women who are simply demanding their half of the Yin-Yang- we’re feminists, not misandrists. That being said, even today millions of women are being pushed into the kitchen and asked to shut up. Scores of ideas are everyday heaped and hurled into the river of egotism and chauvinism, and something as simple as expression of opinion is forbade and ignored in light of the rapidly advancing world. All because we were born with something that you didn’t have, and instead of seeing that as a way of life, you thought of that as a threat. Right from a pass at us on the streets to creating a damsel-in-distress situation, there has always been a woman being pulverised. She is a lot of amazing things- she has a career, she has an amazing family and great friends, and she balances all of this so beautifully, so skilfully. The morning newspapers glorify the working women, whereas nobody sees the sacrifices that goes behind dusty, sooty, sweaty kitchens, where her only escape could probably be a lunchtime soap opera or a phone call with her friend about a planned excuse for exchanging money for clothes.
Technology gave us a voice, but you had different plans for us. If we expressed our opinions in a field that you thought was way too cool for us, you went out of the way to slut-shame us. Why? Because you couldn’t handle someone giving you a better and more refined suggestion in your “cool arena”? Why has this always been a problem- Adam v. Eve, Romeo v. Juliet, Trump v. Merkel? Why have the two genders been playing fencing for such a long time? Hiding behind gender descriptions, and normalising it through media has been around for way too long.
We honestly don’t need to see a woman’s cleavage to respect her; try showcasing her intellect, and then you’ll see the difference you have on people’s lives. We don’t need item numbers (this is for you, Indian cinema) to ensure we’ve had a good viewing experience. If you have an amazing script, we’re going to watch it, sans the item number. Each type of gender has its own unique feature, and the reason we have the variety is so we can highlight them for who they are, and not jail them by calling them trophies.